Are You Done with Dieting?

Today I have a special announcement for those of you who don’t already know… the doors to the Done with Dieting Bootcamp are open!

The 30 Day Done with Dieting Bootcamp is designed to be the first month of your journey back to lasting health. In just 15 minutes a day for 30 days, I will teach you exactly what it takes to lose weight and keep it off. You get a video from me each day, a downloadable workbook that has questions to answer, quizzes to take, and space for 30 days of food planning.

If you go through this program as it’s designed, by the end of this first month you will be a completely different person! You will have shifted your metabolism from someone whose insulin levels are running sky high and wreaking havoc in your body, to someone whose metabolism is so much healthier! So I hope you'll join us.

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In today's podcast we talk about Diet Language... all those little things we say to ourselves that can actually really sabotage our long-term success. Tune in, because awareness is everything!

Episode Highlights:

12:00 People say when they're dieting, "I cheated" or "I had a cheat day" and this is classic diet language. It's the idea that I'm depriving myself all the time. I need a day where I can just eat whatever I want, which is my cheat day. This is classic deprivation thinking where you're eating nourishing foods purely for the weight loss benefit and you really have no intention of giving up toxic food. You're just waiting for that day when you get to eat your 'cheat' meal.

25:31 Sustainable weight loss means that you learn how to manage your emotions without food or alcohol, that you no longer have this emotional relationship with food, and that instead, you have an emotional relationship with yourself and you know how to manage yourself.

29:09 Losing weight and keeping it off is one of the most difficult things that you'll ever do. But, the weight loss journey, if you do it correctly, meaning if you take it to heart, and make some of these changes in your thinking, whats going to happen is you can use all of the skills you've learned to lose weight to change everything else about your life too - because these skills are transferrable!

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Dr. Angela Zechmann (00:00):
You are listening to the Keep The Weight Off podcast with Dr. Angela, episode number 54.

Introduction (00:07):
Welcome to The Keep The Weight Off podcast, where we bust all the dieting myths and discover not just how to lose weight, but more importantly, how to keep it off. We go way beyond the food and we use science and psychology to give you strategies that work. And now your host, Dr. Angela Zechmann.

Dr. Angela Zechmann (00:28):
All right. Hey everyone. Welcome to this week's podcast. Hey Marchelle. How you doing?

Marchelle (00:34):
I'm doing really good.

Dr. Angela Zechmann (00:35):
Oh, good. I am so excited today. I've just been working so hard and I have a special announcement for all those of you who don't already know that the doors to the done with Dieting Bootcamp are finally open for real. And this is, so I wanted to explain a little bit more. I kind of hinted at it in the past, but I really want to explain a little bit more about out what this bootcamp is. So it's called The 30 Day Done With Dieting Bootcamp. So it's 30 days. And basically it's designed to be the first month of your journey back to lasting health. So what I'm doing is for 30 days, I'm basically holding your hand, that's basically what I'm doing. So every day for 30 days, you get a new video from me each day.

Dr. Angela Zechmann (01:31):
They range from about five to 10 minutes long. You also get a downloadable workbook, so it's a, like a digital workbook, and you can download the workbook and follow along. The workbook has questions for you to answer. It has quizzes for you to take, and it's got 30 days worth of a food journal for, so that you can plan. So it's a planner. Okay? And what I'm teaching you in this 30 is exactly what it takes to lose weight and keep it off. So again, I try to keep the videos relatively short so there's not too much to take in in any one day.

Dr. Angela Zechmann (02:11):
But I've also provided you with the information that you need, the science that you need. So if you go through this program, as it's designed by the end of the first month, you're going to be a totally different person. And we see this all the time in the clinic, when people take what I've taught them and they apply it. And you know, they come in and they're overweight and they're tired and they're feeling like crap and they're all achy. And sometimes they even have appointments with rheumatologists and other types of specialists to see if they can get the, fix their problems with their joints and, and their aches and their pains and…..

New Speaker (02:56):
Wasting money on Jenny Craig.

Dr. Angela Zechmann (02:58):
Yeah. And and then they come back in a month and they're like, I canceled the appointment. I just, I just don't need it. I feel so much better. So I can guarantee you're going to be a different person. If you do this 30 days. You're going to have shifted your metabolism from someone who's insulin levels are running sky high and wreaking havoc in your body to someone whose metabolism is much, much healthier. And I was just talking to a client the other day. She's a woman in her sixties and she's taken what I teach. And she'd been at this for about maybe two or three weeks. She'd already lost seven pounds on the scale. Now I told her, we don't know for sure that that's seven pounds of fat. We just had that talk last week. But she said, the most remarkable thing is that she's just feeling so much better.

Dr. Angela Zechmann (03:50):
She said, she's not having mood swings anymore. She's not feeling depressed. Now. She moved to the pacific northwest from Southern California and are pacific northwest winters are difficult. They're notorious for clouds and rain this time of year. And she's like, I don't have any seasonal affect disorder like this isn't a problem for me. She said she has much better energy, no more cravings for junk food, no more crazy hunger. She's not taking any new medications. She hasn't even made it through the full 30 days yet and she's already noticed profound changes. So that's what I want you all to know is possible in just 30 days. And that's what I can promise you when you sign up for Done With Dieting. Profound changes in a very short period of time. We see it all the time in the clinic. I like to say, I have the best job in the world and wouldn't you agree, Marchelle? .

New Speaker (04:44):
We both have the best jobs in the world.

Dr. Angela Zechmann (04:46):
We have the best jobs in the world. Yeah. . Now I want to point out that if you truly are done with dieting, there are some things that you'll need to change in your thinking. Essentially you're are going to want to stop using diet language. So I want to explain what I mean by diet language, because if you've been struggling with your weight for years, maybe even decades, like most of us, you've probably developed some well ingrained thinking patterns or habits of thought that are actually quite detrimental. And so I want to point these out.

Dr. Angela Zechmann (05:22):
Essentially diet language is the language of deprivation and judgment. And sometimes even often times there's shame. So it's the language of shame and judgment. So here are some examples. Have you ever said, I can't have that. How often have you said that to yourself? Have you ever said that to yourself?

New Speaker (05:46):
Yeah, I definitely have said that. And, and I'm, and if you want me to like name names on the dieting programs that like do not work. Okay. Weight Watchers, you can only have like a, this, this, this, these many calories. Okay. Yeah. That doesn't work. It's diet language. Okay. So yeah, don't do it. Jenny, Craig, just hands you your meals and says, you can only eat this yeah. For this amount of time. Right. And you're going to lose that's diet. Like all these things, all these, all these places that we turn to to try to lose weight because we women, we, you know, it's like, we are, we're so judgemental on ourselves. Right. So we want to try this thing. That's going to work. And there's always these trends, okay, there's this, you know, whatever the Mediterranean diet or mm-hmm, , you know, the 30, 10, you know, all, all these things, you know, like beach body.

New Speaker (06:35):
And so that's all like, all that is, is like this, this entity that tells you that you can't have this. Yeah. And you can't have that. Yep. And then your mind starts going like, okay, I can do it for a little while. Right. But then something snaps when, you know, because we all do that. And then we not only gain the weight, but we gain more weight and that is science. Okay. And Angela does talk about that in podcast. Yep. But it's yeah. It's, it's like this, this, this stuff that we do to our minds is so deeply ingrained that we just, you really have to just realize that this is a lifestyle change. It's not you're it's it's for ever like you're, there's no going back once, you know this stuff, you can't unknow it. So you can't go back.

New Speaker (07:25):
You can't. It's true.

New Speaker (07:26):
Right. Right.

Dr. Angela Zechmann (07:28):
All right. So what I want to point out about, when you tell yourself, I can't have that, this is the language of deprivation. So there's a feeling of powerlessness about this, a sense that someone else's control of what you can eat and what you can't eat. Right. I really want you to think carefully about this. I'm not just talking to you, Marchelle, I'm talking to all of our podcast, liters listeners. You can eat, you can eat anything you want. It's just that some things that are considered food or actually toxic poisons and are going to cause long term suffering for you. So do you really want to say I can't have that or would it be better to think, I choose not to eat that because now I realize it's just as toxic as cigarettes. How's that sound? .

New Speaker (08:16):
Oh, so Michelle, so Michelle is another provider in your clinic and yeah. And then I'm not, if everybody knows about her mm-hmm so Michelle Warner is another provider in the clinic and she and I had a pretty in depth talk about this subject. We said, we talked about what is the most toxic thing? Is it heroin? Is it, you know, alcohol? Is it mm-hmm cigarettes? Is it sugar? You know, mm-hmm and it's Michelle, like what, what's the most damaging thing to your body? She's such sugar. Yeah. Out of all the things out of all the drugs, mm-hmm, , you know, alcohol cigarettes, everything, you know, she said sugar and I was like, wait a minute. Why would sugar be the worst in? And why would, why would be, we be so addicted to something that is completely toxic to your body? Mm-Hmm , mm-hmm , there's no nutritional value. Mm-Hmm and it's toxic to your body. We're all, all Americans. I can't say everybody because you know, that's too general, but you know, on, generally speaking, Americans are addicted to sugar. Right. Mm-hmm and like, I, like we just said, it's it's toxic. There's no nutritional value. Which she said it's because of the dopamine hit that it gives your brain. Right. Right. So that's something that we have to realize it has nothing to do with your stomach. It has everything to do with your mind. Right.

Dr. Angela Zechmann (09:29):
Exactly. Yeah. So, yep. So don't ever say, I can't have that say, right, right. I choose not to. I mean, that's what I think when I look at a pizza, like, no, thanks. I'm not interested in pizza cause I am interested in living a vibrant, healthy life. Right. You're thinking with your mind, not your stomach. Yeah,

Dr. Angela Zechmann (09:48):
Exactly. So here's another example of things that people will say when they're in that diet mentality. I just salad. I just had a salad. It's like, wow. That's more deprivation thinking. Salads are wonderful. What do you mean? I just had a salad. How about I had a delicious, beautiful salad for lunch?.Mm-Hmm Right?  

  Marchelle (10:09):
Yeah, no, I, I mean, I heard that a thousand times, like yeah. And I've even done it myself. Like, oh God, I just had a salad. Yeah,

Dr. Angela Zechmann (10:16):
Exactly. Like I deprive myself and I just had a salad. Oh my gosh. Exactly.

  Marchelle (10:21):
Exactly. And it wasn't…..

Dr. Angela Zechmann (10:22):
How about one. this one……

New Speaker (10:30):
You hear that all the time with families.

Dr. Angela Zechmann (10:32):
Yeah, exactly.

New Speaker (10:33):
And it's like, why? Because you know, the, the mother, well, when she starts, you know, eating health or, you know, normally lingos eating normal. So she has to make her own meal and the rest of the family eat something else. Right. Exactly. Because they, yeah, because they, they want spaghetti or whatever, you know? Right. And she's like, and here I am, you know, sitting all by myself, you know, eating my, just my salad or whatever, you know. Exactly. So yeah. It's like that. Yeah. I think that happens so much in family.

Dr. Angela Zechmann (11:02):
There's this sort of self pity, poor me thing that goes on. Right. Right, right, right. So we talked a couple of weeks ago about redefining what normal food is, right. So if you make yourself a nourishing meal, while everyone else eats spaghetti and garlic bread are going to be healthy while everyone else is going to suffer bloating, fatigue and waking. Mm-hmm . Now you might not be able to convince other family members right away that spaghetti and garlic bread is actually not good for them. So you might go ahead and make it for them, but please don't call nourishing whole food, something special or diet food. Okay. So that's how I want you to make that shift. Oh, that's, think of spaghetti and garlic bread as toxic food. And you are just eating normal, healthy nourishing food, right? A huge shift.

  Marchelle (11:54):
It's about your mind. Yep.

Dr. Angela Zechmann (11:56):
It's a huge shift. yeah.

  Marchelle (11:59):
Yep. Yep.

Dr. Angela Zechmann (12:00):
Okay. Here's something else. People say when they're dieting, I cheated or I had a cheat day and this is classic, classic diet language. I used to do it too. And it's the idea that I'm depriving myself all the time. So I need a day where I can just eat whatever I want, which is my cheat day. I can, Uhhuh. That's your cheat day. So this is classic deprivation thinking where your're eating nourishing foods purely for the weight loss benefit and you really have no intention of giving up toxic food. And you're just waiting for that day when you get to eat your cheat meal.

  Marchelle (12:42):
Well, I Actually like on the, on the other end of that, it's I I'm going to, I'm going to compliment that because you're starting to shift your mind into, you know, it's like a transition where even, even if you have like, you have that cheat day, because you still have that emotional relationship with food. Right. Mm-hmm . But if you get to where you're only doing it, that, that one day it's, it's this transition, like you're, you're shifting into this other way of thinking, right. Where yeah. You, you know, what's right. And you're doing what's right. You know, all week long. And then you go, you slip, you know, you purposely is mindful. It's not, you know, it's you, you choose to do it. That's a splurge to that. Yep. Exactly. And you go back to like that old behavior, you're still like, you're still transitioning from like, mm-hmm, that emotional connection with food because you're, you're grieving the loss of like, it's not mean there's so much to this, like yeah.

  Marchelle (13:33):
You're, you're grieving the loss of like this connection yeah. With food. So if you don't have that cheat day, you don't, you don't get to go back to that connection, you know? Yeah. And so when you have this cheat day, like you're doing everything right. You know, and, and you're starting to get it because I know you're feeling good. Cause I've done this. Like you, you, you feel good when you've been eating really, really well for four days mm-hmm or five days. And then you go back to that way of eating it's it has to do with this emotional connection with it. It's not, it's not really the food. It's like this thing that makes you feel good. So, so I have to compliment you if you're there where you can eat four days well, and, and you splurge one day, like you're getting there. Yeah. So pat yourself on the back. Exactly. Right. You're getting there, like it's, it's not, you don't want to stay in that place, but you're getting there. So you're going to, it's a process

Dr. Angela Zechmann (14:22):
Next step. Always a process. Yeah. Right. Right. Well, when it comes to old eating patterns, I like to use the word slip and splurge. So I want to explain what I mean by that. A slip is when you eat something that's not good for you because you slip back into some old habits. It wasn't really planned. It's just that an old brain pathway got triggered for some reason, maybe it was an emotional upset or maybe it was just fatigue. It's nothing to be ashamed of. But what you do need to do is work at recovering quickly so that you don't end up beating yourself up about it. Right? Cause beating yourself up about it will just keep you in that shame cycle and you'll stay eating that crap food. So recover quickly. We teach you all of these skills in the Empowered Weight Loss Membership, which is is where you go when you're done with Done With Dieting, you get into the membership. If you want to.

New Speaker (15:15):
What's a splurge, a splurge is when you decide on purpose, at least 24 hours in advance that you're going to eat something that's not particularly nourishing, but that brings pleasure. So for example, if it's wedding anniversary and you're going out for a nice meal, or if it's the holiday and you're going to have a Christmas dinner, or if it's your birthday and you're going to have a piece of birthday cake, that would be a splurge and there's nothing wrong with the occasional splurge. As long as you keep in mind that it could trigger your brain chemistry. Right? For me, I have to be super, super careful. When, when I splurge, because I have to be prepared that I'm going to trigger cravings for a few days and I have to be ready to manage the cravings.

  Marchelle (16:10):
That is a slippery slope.

Dr. Angela Zechmann (16:12):
It, it can be a very slippery slope.

  Marchelle (16:13):
For me. It is.

Dr. Angela Zechmann (16:15):
Yeah. So instead of saying you cheated, which is classic diet language, use the word slip; either I slipped up and got into some old habits or I decided to have a splurge and a splurge would be at least 24 hours in advance that you made that decision to have that splurge. Okay. Now here's some more diet language. I was good or I was bad. This is classic all or none thinking we talked about all or none thinking a few weeks ago. Remember that each of us is both good and bad. We all do things well, and we all make mistakes and it's fine if your journey's a little bit messy, it's okay. You're never good or bad. You're both. Okay? Here's something else people will say, not matter. Yeah. Here's something else. People will say, I'm doing everything right. And I'm not losing any weight. Now we talked about this last week. We hear this when people are very rigid, trying to stick to a super low calorie eating plan. And oft.en they're over exercising. This can be….

  Marchelle (17:22):
Still thinking like a diet plan at that point.

Dr. Angela Zechmann (17:24):
Mm-Hmm Yeah. This can be, but not always an indicator that this person is approaching this from the calorie deprivation. Right? Dieting mentality. Yep. That's right. Yep.

  Marchelle (17:36):
Sometimes people over like their expectations are still like super, like, I need to lose this much by this time. And when it doesn't happen, then why is this not happening? And that is still like, cause they they're, it's like almost like your brain is waiting to get to that point so bad. Yes. And they, and when you get there, then you can be free again, right? Yes. When, when yes. So they're still not looking at like, this is a lifetime thing. Oh, I away I spent cured. You say like, oh, can I come into the clinic? And I'm going to get cured and sick. This doesn't work like it, like, this is a disease. And that's what I love about Angela so much is that you understand that. Yeah. And like, you, you really have changed my mind about so many. Like I don't even know what I would do without you because honestly my whole life is changed.

  Marchelle (18:25):
Cause I came in such a broken person doing all. I've done, man. I spent a thousand dollars on Jenny Craig. I lost one pound. Oh my gosh. Okay. Cause I, because I just couldn't, it didn't work for me. None of that stuff worked for me because I was just addicted to food. Mm-Hmm , you know, I, I had this emotional and I still fight that I had this emotional relationship with food. What sounds good? What tastes good. What's going to make me feel good that day. Mm. What looks pretty? What can I feed other people? That's going to make them happy during Christmas. What kind of cookies can I make? What kinda birthday cake am I going to do? That's going to be amazing to make everybody, you know, it's sugar, sugar, sugar. And, and I, I never realized all that stuff, right? Yeah. It's so like, like this is such a, a mind shift.

  Marchelle (19:13):
Like you don't, you just never, I, this, this all is so you guys have to do Done With Dieting Bootcamp. Because if you don't, you're not going to understand the stuff that I'm saying, because it changes your life. It is information that changes your life. It's not here. We're going to make you eat this food that's in a bag for 90 days, you know where you're going to eat, eat our powdered food, you know, or you're going to do this for 90 days and you're going to lose this much weight. Right. And right. But we're not going to tell you anything that's going to keep you healthy for your life. Right there. There's no information. It's just do this and you'll lose weight. So this is exactly the opposite. This is, I'm going to give you information that you can't ever unknow. Yeah. And once you know it, it's going to change your life. Yeah. Forever. You never go back. Yeah. Once you can see, once you see things for the way they are. Yeah. And I, yeah, I I'm so excited, but then bootcamp flight let's do this.

Dr. Angela Zechmann (20:15):
Yeah, let's do it. All right. How about this? Have you heard this? I burned 400 calories on the elliptical this morning. Ever heard anybody say that? I've heard a lot.

  Marchelle (20:27):
Now I can eat a pizza.

Dr. Angela Zechmann (20:28):
Exactly. Exactly. This is the that's the way I came. This is the classic….

  Marchelle (20:34):
Now I can have the donut, because I went and did the elliptical.

Dr. Angela Zechmann (20:36):
Exactly. This is the classic position of trading in exercise. Calories for food splurges. Right? This is never going to work long term.

  Marchelle (20:45):
Me hundred percent. When [unclear], I was just like, Hey, I just got up eleptical. You want to go get a pizza?

Dr. Angela Zechmann (20:51):
Exactly. so you can't out exercise a bad diet guys. You just can't. So that's never going to work. So just be aware of that. Sometimes I'll hear with

  Marchelle (21:02):
Zumba. If I did a Zumba class, then I can go eat pizza, like right. I loved it. It was like Tuesday and Thursday. I got to like, do what I wanted cause I did Zumba. Right. So I don't know if any of you guys have done that, but

Dr. Angela Zechmann (21:13):
It's been, oh, I have for sure. all right. Here's another one. I hear a lot. My spouse is supporting me in this program.

  Marchelle (21:22):
Oh, heck yeah. We hear that. What I mean….

Dr. Angela Zechmann (21:25):
That's that's diet language and the diet language is in the word program. So this person is thinking I'm on a diet program because I'm overweight and I need to lose weight. Right? So there's this underlying identity of being an overweight person. But then there's also this idea that I'm in a eating in a freaky way in order to lose weight. And by the way, my spouse is supporting my freaky eating habits. yeah.

  Marchelle (21:54):
If it's a program, it means that you go in and you pay money and then you get what you need to lose 30 pounds. cause the goal is I, I gain some weight and I have like maybe a wedding to go to or whatever. Or my spouse doesn't think I'm attractive or I don't think I'm attractive. I need, need to lose 30 pounds. Like what's going to get me there. Right. So they walk in going, what do I need to do to lose 30 pounds? They don't care about like the year from now. They don't even see a year from now. All they see is this goal, weight, this 30 pounds. That's all they care about. And so yeah, that that's definitely and spouses, we do that to each other all the time. Like I, I mean even my husband and I have done that in the past. Like I shame him. He shames me like, oh we gotta lose like 20 pounds. It's always this number. Yeah. There's always a number involved when you put a number on it or you say program. That means it's thing that as a beginning and an end and it's a short term.

Dr. Angela Zechmann (22:52):
Oh really good point. Really good point. Yeah. So we call this dieting for a deadline. So if people will say I gotta lose weight for my wedding or my class reunion or my son's wedding or my daughter's wedding. Like I don't want to show up and get pictures taken of overweight. I need to right. You know, I don't want to have my, this happy day of my life memorialized with me looking like this. So mm-hmm, gotta get the weight off, you know? And so that's dieting for a deadline. And usually what happens is people feel pretty desperate and they're starving themselves. So we talk, we talked last time about what that does to your brain, cause that's guaranteed to backfire and you're going to end up gaining more weight later. Because our brains and our bodies know exactly what to do when the famine hits and we're just going to store fat like crazy later.

  Marchelle (23:45):
Sustainable weight loss happens slowly. That's what people do not understand is they want to do 30 pounds super quick. They don't understand that the chemistry of your body does not, that doesn't react like that. Your body cannot comprehend losing 30 pounds because it starts going like, whoa, what are you doing to me? Yeah. And you know, it's fighting, it starts fighting. Like what are you doing? This is not, this is not okay. Like, like I don't want to get rid of any of this because your body wants to store store, store energy. Right. Mm-hmm so when you're like 30 pounds really quick then, and your body's fighting it, that is not sustainable weight loss. It never has been. It never will be. That's why this is like a lifetime thing. Mm-Hmm cause you want your body to be able to be used to your weight loss.

  Marchelle (24:35):
Cause otherwise if anything goes wrong, it's going to go right back to where it was if not worse. Yeah. If you have sustained what I've noticed about myself, it's like, I I'm kind of in a slump right now. I gained some weight since July when I went to Mexico. Yeah. But for some reason my body has been forgiving and I'm still like at this same, this same weight for a really long time, even though like I'm not doing what I'm supposed to do because I have sustainable weight loss. Yeah. There's yeah. There's a big difference because it's more, your body's more forgiving when you have sustainable weight loss. Mm-Hmm yeah. And yeah, it is just a thing that people are not told about, which we should have been telling this from the start. I don't know why things got the way that they did, but sustainable weight loss is so amazing because it lasts for so long. Yeah.

Dr. Angela Zechmann (25:31):
Well, sustainable weight loss means that you learn how to manage your emotions without food or alcohol, that you no longer have this emotional relationship with food, and that instead you have an emotional relationship with yourself and you know how to manage yourself. That's what we teach in the membership. That's what we teach.

  Marchelle (25:58):
That's the stuff that we teach and that doesn't just happen by saying, oh, Hey, you need to do this and not do this. Okay, exactly. This is, this is some work

Dr. Angela Zechmann (26:05):
Like or having somebody deliver

  Marchelle (26:07):
Hard things. Okay. Yeah. Is a lot of like mind shifting and if you don't have a support group, okay. So if you're going to really do this, this is what I have to say. Mm-Hmm if you're really ready to do this and you really want like lasting happiness mm-hmm lasting weight loss, lasting, just a lasting, vibrant, happy body. Mm-Hmm then this is not going to be easy. It's it's it's not easy. It's you have to do hard things, which means you to dig deeper because it means you have to quit having an emotional relationship with food. Yep. And that is really hard if you don't have a support group.

Dr. Angela Zechmann (26:47):
Yeah. Yeah. Having a support group is huge.

  Marchelle (26:50):
Right? You mean accountability, buddy. You call it that. You call it, you know your, your tribe can call it your community, whatever you want to call it, you have to have a support system. Because if you really want to do the deep work, because you're going to be somebody to talk to you, you're going to need some guidance you're going to need. When you get to a different level, you're going to need the information to get you to the next place. Because I'm telling everybody, this is a mind shift. It's not about your stomach. It's not about what you're eating. It's not about getting full. Yeah. Okay. It's it's, it's about changing the way you think about yourself and, and that's huge because it is, you know, for me, I, I have a lot of defects. I mean, I had to crap childhood, I mean, and I, you know, carry that into my teenage years.

  Marchelle (27:36):
And I started myself when I was a teenager. Yeah. Did all that kind of stuff, you know? And then all of a sudden I met Angela Zechmann. She's the biggest blessing in my life.

Dr. Angela Zechmann (27:46):
Oh, you're so sweet.

Marchelle (27:48):
When you started questioning like all this stuff that I thought, and he was like, wait a minute, you don't just starve yourself and lose weight. like, that's what I've always been taught. And, but then when I decided to do this, it became so much more because I don't think of myself the same way as I used to. Yeah. I'm not that person anymore. Yay. Like I'm OK. Like I have confidence. I'm okay with, you know, not being perfect. I'm I know I'm awesome now. And so now that started to make me feel full inside where I didn't have to fill myself up with food. Yeah, exactly. Right, right. That's what I'm talking about. Like let's fill ourselves with our own selves and I just it's it's just awesome. Yeah. I'm so happy that I met you. You're you're amazing.

Dr. Angela Zechmann (28:35):
Oh, thank you. Well, you are too .

  Marchelle (28:38):
Thank you.  

Dr. Angela Zechmann (28:41):
Yeah. So, so we teach all of these skills in the Empowered Weight Loss Membership, which, you know, once you're done with the Done With Dieting Bootcamp, then you'll have the opportunity to hang out in our membership. You actually get to be in the membership as you are going through the Done With Dieting Bootcamp. And, and .we offer group coaching. We offer individual coaching. We have a secret, private Facebook community.

  Marchelle (29:05):
The community like all` the people together supporting each other. Yeah.

Dr. Angela Zechmann (29:09):
Yeah. So we've got, I've tried to think of everything and if anything's missing, I hope people will let me know. But I really am trying to give everybody the skills. Because losing weight and keeping it off is one of the most difficult things that you'll ever do. But, the weight loss journey, if you do it right, if you do it correctly, meaning if you take it to heart, and make some of these changes in your thinking, whats going to happen is you can use all of the skills you've learned to lose weight to change everything else about your life too because these skills are transferrable!

Marchelle (29:47):
Yep. That's what I wanted to say. You just, you just summed it up. Like I just have to say, and I'm not sure who's listening to this. If you really want to change your life because quit spending money on all these stupid diet programs that you invest in and yeah, you may lose 20, 30 pounds and then you gain it all back. Then you have to invest in that next diet, you know, trend, pay, stop spending your money on that shit because you're going to be doing it forever. Cause that's the point of them. They want you to be dependent their product, their information, okay. Mm-Hmm this is not like that. This is changing your mindset and not having the emotional relationship with food because no matter what you pay for whatever, you know, all these diet programs, they never address your emotional relationship with food.

  Marchelle (30:40):
All they do is say portion control or oh, counting calories. Or they never say like, Hey, you have a relationship with food. Mm-Hmm okay. Saying, and, and I don't know how it happened, but you do. And we're going to tell you what that is. And not, we actually, Angela Angela. Sorry. Angela's going to tell you like what that means and the science behind it. And then you start to become empowered because you start to know things that I don't know why nobody's ever told you before. Cause we should have all known this stuff. And once you start doing that, you, you become a different person. And then like even talking sometimes when you're like, okay, like back Marchelle. I can't remember back because once you know this stuff, you don't know it. And, and I I've never, ever gone back to the place that I started when I first met you. Yeah. And it's been four years. Yeah.

Dr. Angela Zechmann (31:38):
Okay. And I remember you were eating pretzels. Yeah. You were eating pretzels all day. I know. I

  Marchelle (31:42):
Pretzel. I thought pretzels were like an okay snack. Yeah.

Dr. Angela Zechmann (31:46):
That's and I remember saying, I know, yeah. You were sitting up at the, for these you were sitting up at the front desk, eating pretzels while you were checking people out. I'm like what the heck's going on?

  Marchelle (31:57):
I had no idea what I was getting myself into. Like no clue. OK. I came from this other clinic where we had like snack doors and, and all of us nurses and medical assistants would have our own sector and we'd all share snacks. And all we do is like eat. Cause we were so stressed. That's what was that? We had this super stressful job. And the only thing that like made us happy mm-hmm and is these breaks of like sweets? Like what did you bring? What did you bring? Oh my gosh. Would like share snacks. Okay. And that was just a thing. So when I got the job with you, I just thought, oh I'm just going to bring my snack, but you're up at my desk. Right? Cause I thought it was like normal thing. Mm-Hmm you walk and you're like, yo, you eating pretzels.

  Marchelle (32:43):
yeah. and, and you're like, do you realize you can't do this? You're like, like, do you realize how bad those were for you? And I, and I honestly had no clue what you were talking. I'm like, what do you mean they're bad for you? Like you told me there's so funny. One time you told, you said Marchelle, the reason why you snack so much is because you think your snacks have no calories. Right. Do you remember when you said that to me? Yeah. Cause it still calories thinking, right? Yeah. I wouldn't eat meals and cause I thought, oh God, I just don't eat meals around her. And I just like secret snack mm-hmm and I could like do what I want. And she'll never know I did all, I did all the trips. Okay. I I've done all of it. Okay.

  Marchelle (33:22):
the thing is not it's the thing is it's not about your stomach. OK. It's about your mind. And once everybody realize it's about your mind and not about your stomach, then this thing happens where you're like, whoa I have like, I have a thinking problem. Yeah. Yeah. I have a thinking problem and yeah, this, this information is a solution that that's all I have to say. Like I, I don't know. I don't know else to put it, like don't waste your money on the. Let's do this. It's 2022. Yeah. You know, it is year. We all want a better year because we've had such like this. I mean these last two, we say like maybe next year it'll be better and it just gets worse. Like let's just do something good for ourselves that we have control over. Exactly. Which is like changing your mind and making yourself a better person and feeling good and feeling healthy. Yeah.

Dr. Angela Zechmann (34:16):
Awesome. Thank you Marchelle. That's perfect. All right. Well thank, thanks to all of you for listening and I just want you to, and you don't have to fix anything right now. I just want you to bring awareness to the kinds of things that you say to yourself and others that perpetuate this idea of being on a diet and then just write them down whenever you hear yourself thinking or saying any of these kinds of things. So I just had a salad or I cheated or I'm in a program or you know, I I'm burning calories to trade it in for foods, splurges, all of that, all of that. You know, I'm always listening to my patients and they know that if I hear these sorts of things, I'm going to nail them instantly obviously with love, with love and with her best interest at hearts. By the way, did you know, you've been saying things like, we gotta have a little chat here.  

  Marchelle (35:14):
So I just so ID you last night. And I said, Hey, I just had a conversation with my mom. She wants to do weight Watchers. And what you think about it? Cause I don't even know what we, I don't know a whole lot about weight Watchers mm-hmm and you just simply responded it's a diet. Yep. And I was like, OK, I get you and then it was, it was cause I was expecting like, oh, this elaborate, you know, like they do this and that and this that you just said, it's a diet. And that was enough for me. I was like, OK, now I know what to say. It was. Yeah, that was great. yeah.

Dr. Angela Zechmann (35:50):
All right. So we've gotta wrap this up. So I just want to let everybody, this has been a lot of fun, ton of fun. And remember to sign up for the Done With Dieting 30 Day Bootcamp. If you are ready to have me help you jumpstart your weight loss and…

Marchelle (36:08):
If you're listening to this you're ready.

Dr. Angela Zechmann (36:10):
I think so if you've listened all the way through now you're ready. Yeah. And we'll put a sign up link in the show notes for you. You could also just go to www.journeybeyondweightloss.com and it'll be there. And we will see you guys next week. So take care of everyone. Bye bye.

Marchelle (36:29):
Bye everybody.Hey, if you really want to lose weight and keep it off for good, your next step is to sign up for Dr. Angela's free weight loss course, where you're going to learn everything you need to get started on your weight loss journey, the right way. Just head over to JourneyBeyondWeightLoss.com/freecourse to sign up. Also, it would be awesome if you could take a few moments and write a review on iTunes. Thanks! And we'll see you in Journey Beyond Weight Loss!

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